Should i cuddle with my ex

Does it mean he wants to get back together. Ok, lets say that you and your ex run into each other at the mall. Upon running into each other your ex takes a very defensive posture and has his arms crossed like this,. In fact, I lived it because I was the angry closed off ex with crossed arms. What I would like to do for you now is give you access into my mind and what I was thinking at that moment.

Well, one day I was walking around the mall with my buddy and he informed me that my ex and her friends were at the mall as well. It was the first time that we had been in the same place for at least a month and I felt really weird about it. Of course, my buddy being the guy he is pushed me to go talk to them he had a crush on one of the friends my ex was walking around with.

This act made me feel left out so like a wounded deer I carefully made my way over to the group where my ex was located. Look, I am not saying that every ex boyfriend is like me but I do like to think I am a pretty good gauge.

Does it mean he wants you out of his life forever? These are interesting questions seeing as how your ex boyfriend definitely did not have any problem hugging you passionately when you were dating. It is because of this fact that most women think that their ex may not be into them anymore but I would caution these women to stop and really look at things from your ex boyfriends perspective. So, when he gets put in a position where he may have to hug you he may not know what to do with himself.

Or should I try to hug her passionately and imply I want to be more than friends? Of course, planning something out and actually being in a position to execute it are two entirely different things. Sure, there is always that chance that he just wanted to hug you as a friend but there is an even greater chance that he is too frightened about the situation to know how to act. Where a man looks deeply into your eyes, pulls you close and you feel your body fill up with butterflies. But before you take out the champagne and start celebrating I need you to realize something.

Lets say that you are walking down the street two months after your breakup with your ex boyfriend and you happen to run into him. Anyways, when you see your ex boyfriend in person you are absolutely floored to see that he has put on some weight,. The point I am trying to get at here is that if you see that your ex boyfriend has gained some weight then that is likely a sign of depression. So, rather than having me just ramble on for another hundred words lets just get right down to business.

A few years ago I took a psychology class in college and the professor played a very interesting video that always stuck with me. The video basically said that human beings can sometimes mirror another persons body language and it gave two examples to back it up.

Anyways, even if I am not in a good mood seeing her smile makes me want to smile and subsequently puts me in a good mood. Of course, a hypothesis means nothing until you prove it right or wrong so I decided to do a little test.

I noticed it and thought it was interesting so I decided to change things up a bit so I sat forward like this,. I apologize for the mannequin picture but it was the best one I could find to illustrate my point.

Lets pretend that you are on a date with your ex boyfriend and you do what I did above to look and see if he is mimicking your body language or posture and you determine that he is indeed mimicking it. While I hesitate to sign the whole farm over to you I will admit that it does appear to be a good sign.

Any time I have experienced this phenomenon in my life someone has always had strong feelings for the other person. I remember I would just get lost in her eyes and then I would snap out of it for a split second and realize that I was mirroring her posture exactly but then she would look at me with those eyes again and I would be lost. If you do find that your ex boyfriend is mirroring you it is a strong sign behind the fact that he still has feelings for you.

Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Hi I love reading your content. My dilemma is — my boyfriend of 3 years ended things nearly a week ago. There has been a turbulent past few months with little niggles and bickering taken its tole.

I have not contacted him by phone or begged ect , took his things to him 2 days ago expecting to drop them off at the door…. Instead he insisted I come into his home, we spoke comfortably, laughed and he made me a Sunday dinner , he tried to instigate physical touch mainly by trying to play fight. He was incredibly emotional he is normally hard to read and distant so this whole experience was very out of the blue for me.

I respect his decision in the breakup but do I follow your advice for no contact or move on? Any Help would be gratefully appreciated, Thankyou. Hi there! About 9 months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 months after having a baby.

We had been friends for 6 months before dating for about a year. Within that time we fell pregnant and had a baby. After the breakup I did my best to not communicate with him not even about the baby for about 3 months and was slowly getting the hang of being a single mother.

He initiated conversation a said he wanted to meet up and talk which we did. I stupidly fell for it and ended up sleeping with him after much convincing on his part. A month after that he texted again and basically repeated the same thing, but this time around I slept with him again and just went dead silent on him.

I never texted or called him which seemed to bother him quite a bit. He became more interested in my love life now and wanted to know if I was seeing anyone he should be worried about and talk about our future together as a family. He would make surprise visits to my workplace and offer to get me lunch or whatever I wanted or needed just to make me happy.

His body language also points towards interest in me his hugs are sensual and passionate, smile is genuine, he always maintains eye contact and throws in a kiss when he can. Hi, there! I have a confusing situation. So, my ex and I have known each other for over 10 years now.

Very early on, he had a crush on me we worked together , but he had a girlfriend who was more of a roommate relationship so there was no go for a while. He took some time to get his life together after his breakup and we were no longer working together so our contact was intermittent and he is about to graduate from college in his late 30s!

I was scared so I pushed him off a little bit I had two big things about myself I needed to tell him so I was confusing him by not being communicative and he called me out for it. Around early fall last year, we had been together for a little less than 6 months, but we had a fight about intimacy. He told me he was in love with me, but then said that it sounds like I had some thinking to do about us.

The next day, I texted him telling him I was sorry that he had to see me cry I cried over a couple of other things and his response was it was okay, and that he would rather walk away than cause me pain.

Now this is going to sound like a really weird thing, but communication was usually left up to me. I would only contact him on the weekends and not spend all my free time with him because I admit I have a wall up from a previous heartbreak. Any time he would reach out to me, I would not pick up the phone as he called or take a while to text back, etc. After two missed calls when I called him, I stopped calling or reaching out in early October and decided to leave him alone as the semester was tough on him.

She asked me if he knew, and I told her that if he acted the way I did towards him, then I would not think so. She then gave me the advice of just being direct with him and telling him how I feel.

I then admitted I was scared of his response and would be shutting my phone down to decompress from what I did. When I turned my phone on, he had responded, though it took him 3 days after when I originally sent the message. He responded positively saying he appreciated my telling him and that I really stepped out of my comfort zone. He said he wanted to see me as well and asked when I had to go back to work and that he had been busy with a bunch of family events during the holidays.

So and I know this will sound tacky and rude , the next day I went to his apartment unannounced to see him. It caught him off guard and he seemed rather flustered tbh, if the shoe was on the other foot and someone came to my home unannounced, I would probably be flustered too.

We talked for almost an hour first time in person since the breakup and then he told me I should go. I wrapped my arms around his neck and he wrapped his arms around my waist right at the small of my back. I obliged because I wanted to and it was a closed mouth, when usually he would open his mouth a little bit.

Then he pointed out something behind me and I noticed he was still holding on to me. As I was leaving, he made a joke that I should come back at 9pm it was almost 8pm when I was leaving. Weird, yes, but it checks out. Does it sound like he still has feelings? We used to go long periods of time before the relationship where we did not see one another, but if we ran into each other, I could tell he still had feelings.

Hi Debbie so I cant answer the questions you want, but you can start the program if you want to try and get your ex back, but it always starts with a No Contact for a minimum of 30 days where you work on yourself and read about the Ungettbale Girl and then, as it has been a bit up and down in the relationship and possible other people can get involved at times, you need to avoid talking to mutual friends about him for some time, you need to live your life, date casually and learn about the process we follow here including the being there method.

Ran into my ex at a gas station, we were very serious, engaged at one point, together 5 or more years. He would call and text months after breakup saying he missed and loved me. We both eventually moved on and ended up having kids the exact same months and our children are same age. Ran into him at a gas station and he gave me the biggest smile and gently touched my elbow and tried to talk. I was really reserved with one worded answers. Does this mean he still has feelings?

Or that he is just having a rough time and trying to find comfort, friendly face? Hi Veronica, so there is a chance that he still as some sort of feelings for you still, or that he is thinking that you and he had a great relationship and maybe could have had that again.

If you are single and interested in seeing him then I do think you could have that chance. Why would my ex kiss me on the cheek at my fathers funeral visitation? Over people came to the visitation and not one other person kissed me on the cheek. Thank you for all your articles, I keep rereading them when I need support. I had no question in my mind that this guy was crazy about me, if not obsessed with me. But he has serious intimacy issues and keeps sabotaging everything by continuing to hook up with women who are leagues beneath me and him.

I walked out did no contact and we went out on a date recently I had to initiate everything, he can be passive aggressive, but I know this about him. He looked like hell, gained weight, was unkempt and his apartment was a wreck. He struck me as slightly depressed. I kept the date fun and we had no discussions, though I suggested I was dating others and he was not going to be my focus.

Any advice? Thank you for the article. But I have one question. My ex boyfriend wants to cuddle. Does he still have feelings for me? Add Opinion. Dealing with Exes: Why does my ex not like me?

This and that about an ex An EX means.. In my life, after any break up, an EX is out of my mind. I move on almost immediately and never think of, try to contact, check up on, etc Breakups happen for a reason I'm not talking about someone who moved away I'm talking about relationships that ended due to cheating, abuse, incompatibility and such Who cares about what an EX thinks of them?

Then "breaks" Taking a vacation from a relationship isn't going to fly. This "closure" What's that about? No such thing So what? Decouple your bank accounts, bills, groceries, memberships, and start pursuing your own hobbies and interests. You may not be able to move out or redecorate, but rearranging your existing furniture and other doodads can be a cost-effective way to refresh your space and mark the start of a new chapter even if that chapter still involves your ex.

When exes do things together they used to do as a couple the difference in dynamic — say, you used to watch movies together and cuddle, but now you watch them on opposite sides of the couch — can be awkward, painful, and stall the healing process. For exes who were in a heterosexual relationship, this can translate into the woman feeling more drawn in and the man feeling more repelled after rekindling sex, so best to avoid this minefield at all costs during your stint as roommates.

Maybe it involves minimizing interaction, or being friendly but keeping conversations light and superficial. Having an open conversation about what each of you hope your new relationship script will look like, and doing your best to follow through on this new dynamic, might not make the healing process any easier, but at least your roommating waters will be a lot less murky.

Krissy Brady covers women's health and wellness. Read more at her website, Written by Krissy. Change Makers.